Tuesday, December 27, 2016

The TV show you never knew you needed...!

I spend a lot of my time on the internet, that's nothing new to most of you. And what's the greatest thing on the internet? That's right, A netflix/hulu/amazon combo! I most recently spent a lot of time combing through all three looking for something to watch, I found nothing.

The good news is I've actually started going to local drag shows and through the amazing queens I've been I found an awesome new Youtube show called Dragula. It's about---well, drag. And if you love yourself some spooky drag--this show is for you!

I really wanted to blog about Dragula because first of all it's hosted by the infamous Boulet Brothers but they have PLUS SIZE and BEARDED queens! I've been waiting in anticipation for the next episode.


I'm always looking for positive plus size people doing what they do best, and truly big bearded drag is a wet dream come true.
Let me know what you think!
Dev

Sunday, December 11, 2016

The Bitch is Back!

Hey Everyone!

Sorry for the downtime. I have spent the last few months directing a play at a local high school. My first directing gig to be truthful. It took a lot more time than I thought it would--but I had an amazing time working with my students and telling a story my way.

I'm currently sitting in my living room listening to Panic at the Disco and writing this blog for you all. Expect more content and new ideas in the near future. There are so many directions I would like to bring this blog--and I'm so thankful you're all taking this journey with me.

While I was away I did drop into The Fat Lip and was a guest on the podcast! I talked with Ashley about being a fat gay male in the dating world--lots of discussion and talks of crushes. It was a lot of fun and I have a feeling Ashley and I will have a lot of discussions in the future!

Fat dating (and sex and love) is just a subject that mainstream culture doesn’t talk about. If popular media were to be believed, fat people barely date at all because we’re too busy dieting and hating ourselves. But fat people of all sizes, cultures, abilities, and orientations do date and have sex and fall in love just as often as their thinner peers. This series will explore the real dates and sex and relationships that fat people engage in every day. Well maybe not EVERY day. Jeez.
Today’s episode features Devyn, a guy who has a lot to say about traumatic relationships; navigating the gay singles scene as a fat, disabled man; and learning not to settle for less than you deserve. Be sure to check out his blog ChunkyLemonade for more of his thoughts.
The music you hear in this show is by Starcrusher. Go to cstarcrusher.bandcamp.com to get his new album Goodbye Halcyon Days. Support artists who support the fat community!
If you’d like to be a supporter of the show, check out www.patreon.com/thefatlip to learn how. Seriously, there are stickers. No one can resist a sticker.


<3 Dev

Monday, November 14, 2016

"The monsters in my head are scared of love..."


The photo on the left I took early in the morning weeks ago. I've also put off this blog.

I knew I was dealing with a lot of things that have been dishing out anxiety and some depression. It's an awful combination. I started this blog to write about my life totally unfiltered and to give advice.

Because honestly, everyone has shitty days. Even the greatest people who you think have their life together. We all have things that happen in our lives that totally crush us.

Now what you do with that is totally up to you. 

We can lay around the house, stressing and crying.

Or we can take an active role in out own mental health and try to do things that bring us joy. 


Most importantly one person shouldn't be the reason for your happiness.


CHUNKY LEMONADE'S GUIDE TO DEPRESSION FUNK!


Color! 

If you're one of those fuckers who are too cool to color I'm rolling my eyes so hard at you. I mean there's even a Supernatural coloring book--if those hotties don't get you off, I don't know what will.

Adult coloring books can be expensive, starting at $9! But the thrifty shoppers can find them at The Dollar Tree, Dollar General and so on. 

And don't sit there and tell me that's too expensive--at the very least pick up one of those jumbo Christmas coloring books and go the fuck to town. (I started playing Christmas music four days before Halloween, suck it.)



Music!

I love using Spotify to make playlists--I'm currently jamming to a "mega mix" of my favorite songs from the last few years. It's close to ten hours long. A side bonus thing--if you're weird like me strip down to those undies and dance while cleaning! 


Gym!

The guy I have a crush on said this to me once--at first I really didn't like what he said. Hell, I still don't care for the way he phrased it. However, some people self harm... But what if you took that pain and worked your ass off until you were exhausted?

The part that I feel iffy about is you need to know when to stop. There's a difference between being tired and ripping off your knee cap. I do find when I leave the gym I'm more relaxed and my mind stops racing for a few hours.



But there you have it, my top three activities that get me out of any mental funk! What's your three activities? 

Until Next Time,
Dev

Sunday, October 9, 2016

"So don't let them steal your light..."

Oh, man. Aren't guys pretty? 

I mean looking in their eyes, playing with their hair, waking up beside them and the fact that they come with built in dildos is pretty great (though I can admit I've had better in plastic form.) Hey, I never said this was a blog for kids, now did I? (Sorry Grandma...? and Mom! xx)

Anyway, bits of plastic don't talk back. Well, they have these mp3 ones and stuff and this blog is starting off very weird--but that's my life. Anyway, moving on from that, the point is it's nice to have someone who likes you & someone who wants to spend time with you.

But that's when dependency issues come into play. How much do you really need a sex God who can talk back and just shit on your day with a simple sentence. At a point we give people too much power over our lives--we forget how to make our own happiness and how to simply be happy with ourselves.

And let me tell you, that's something I struggle with a lot. But it's also something I'm working on. So for you, dear reader--I have another LIST.

CHUNKY LEMONADE'S LIST TO BE A MOSTLY-INDEPENDENT ADULT

1 - It's none of your business
It's none of your business what he's doing all day every day. Either you trust him or you don't... and if you feel like you can't trust him then you already know you shouldn't be in a relationship already because of your insecurities.

2 - You deserve time
You don't deserve every moment of his time---we are talking about dependency issues here. But there are landmark moments that he should be at your side. Bullying him into doing something he doesn't want to do will only lead to fighting at said event or later that night.

3 - The Phone
PUT DOWN THE DAMN PHONE. If I learned anything, in 1996 no one really had technology and yet people had relationships and found each other--yes even gay people! Nothing is worse holding onto a phone all day for a message that's probably not coming anyway.

4 - We're all stupid sacks of meat
Truly every moment of every day we're making choices on what does and doesn't make us happy. You're allowed to leave anyone, anything for any reason that you feel confident with. Don't be an ass, break his heart and then come back two months later. That just complicates everything.

5 - Play with yourself
Not like that you fuckin' pervert, FINE you're right I started the blog talking about attachments.. 😏
Find hobbies that you like to do--everyone likes to do SOMETHING. And yes laying in bed watching hours of Netflix eating gelato straight from the tub is something. But getting your ass out of bed and buying a face mask from the dollar store works wonders too. Occupy yourself and your time.

6 - Do things
You don't need someone tied to your side just to go to the store with your friends. Concert? Festival? Carnival? Look, you don't have to do everything together with someone you like or love. Just do things. It's pretty shitty of you if you do something without 'em when you two have already talked about doing it together.

7 - When all else fails
Tweet me at @ChunkyLemonade and I'll make up some more advice, I'm really good at making the advice... following it, not so much.

That's all the fucks I have to give today. Guys can be shitty but so can be the ones that love them. Be patient and kind--one time you'll find someone worth your time. So don't fuck it up!

Until Next Time,
Dev